|As I write this, I am listening to my son and my husband talk to each other in the bathroom. Roan is taking a shower, and Anson is sitting next to the tub on the floor. Anson is explaining to Roan that when he was a kid nobody wore helmets while riding a bike or skateboard or even seatbelts in a car for that matter. Anson’s not trying to connect it to any life lesson, he’s just telling Roan how it was – brother to brother, more than father to son. Most likely it is something I’ll have to undo when it gets a little warmer and Roan digs out his skateboard and I dig out his helmet and then he’ll explain to me that hey, when Dad was a kid nobody bothered with that nonsense so what’s up?|
Now the conversation has moved on to some suspicious sounds of splashing and laughter. I’m guessing there must be at least an inch of water on that floor. I can hear the sound of the shower still running, as well as big splashes so I’m guessing they’ve opted for the shower/bath combo that is totally environmentally unsound but feels good on a Sunday evening. Anson is now telling Roan that he used to climb the highest trees with no shoes on and that a one-time consequence of having a broken arm was totally worth it.
Looking into the future I hope that Roan remembers his Old Dad as this young handsome devil who has nothing but time for him. I hope they continue this relationship that I have to occasionally untie the knots of. While I’ll probably have to get Botox soon for raising my right eyebrow in disapproval of what’s going on, I secretly am jealous that they get to be pirates together. They break the rules, looting the kitchen for chocolate every time they let me sleep in (but still I fall for the lure without fail), they disobey subway safety rules by hanging from the hand bars, they play video games for hours on end until they’re both red-eyed and computer-headed. But my suspicion is that the bond they’ve formed through mischieviousness will save Roan from far greater unnamed dangers of the future because he’ll have this young handsome devil by his side, as his friend, brother and father.